The holidays are the most wonderful time of the year for couples. Visions of holding your date as the snow falls perfectly onto your hair (that is somehow not a frizzy mess), cups of hot cocoa with marshmallows, kissing under twinkling lights, ice skating…yeah, those are nice movie-magic moments.
But let’s get real; dating in December can seriously suck. Everyone has preexisting travel plans, family obligations, holiday parties, and then there’s that whole gift giving business. All of these factors can put a first date in a really awkward situation. Navigating a budding relationship can be rough as is, but throwing holiday season road bumps into the mix can feel like a major make-or-break situation.
However, this doesn’t mean you should close up shop, deactivate your online profile, and decline offers for social interaction just to avoid meeting someone special, or just retreat into general hibernation. Nay, you should conduct business as usual, but proceed with caution!
Here are some helpful tips to salvage newbie relationships during the holidays:
I have a Pinterest board titled “WEDDING INSANITY.” I’m obsessed with wedding blogs. At the airport, I’ve been known to buy a wedding magazine…or two. And I don’t even have a fiancé. I have a boyfriend, but we’re nowhere close to wedding blog territory. And I did this even when I was single.
I have my reasons, but who cares, really? I shouldn’t have to defend it. I know I’m not alone. In fact, the New York Times published a piece in which the writer expressed disappointment that single women were planning their dream weddings. Reporter Abby Ellin writes,
[...] even though women may be leaning in, branching out, cracking glass ceilings and forging vibrant careers in multiple sectors, for many of them, it is their wedding day that heralds true success.
To that I say…so what?
Nobody wants to be described as “clingy” in a relationship. Luckily, there’s a simple way to avoid that label.
Welcome back to Best Lady Tweets! Last week was pretty fun, had some good tweets in there. This week, I bring you more of the funniest and truest tweets from women on twitter! Please enjoy. We could all use a little enjoyment lately. At least I know I could. So if you’re feeling like I am, hop along on this journey. Hooray!
I only want to eat at restaurants where it seems fairly obvious that members of the wait staff are fucking each other and it's complicated
— Alison Agosti (@AlisonAgosti) December 10, 2014
I worry that in this social media obsessed place we’re in that we’re putting too much emphasis on the wrong things. For example, wedding proposals. They’re just the best, aren’t they? So sweet and full of love. But it’s getting to a point where lately, everyone feels they have to compete with each other for “THE BEST PROPOSAL EVAAAR!!!” And it shouldn’t have to be this way. There’s pressure now more than ever on couples to get engaged in a totally extravagant manner, whether or not that kind of engagement suits either of the people in the couple. People post their incredible flash mob proposals on Facebook and it makes others feel like they have to have their own incredible flash mob proposal. And it’s all just a never ending cycle of pressure and forced expectations.
This was talked about recently on Offbeat Bride, a website that suggests others “altar” their thinking. And it got a lot of people talking about their own proposals and how their family and friends were actually disappointed by them, for not being “romantic” enough or “extravagant” enough, even though the couple in question was perfectly happy with it. Here’s my favorite story:
Marvin Tramaine Hill II was arrested by Des Moines police yesterday after allegedly hitting his pregnant wife with a McDonald’s McChicken sandwich ”because he doesn’t like them.”
The Des Moines Register reports that when police arrived at Hill’s home Tuesday, he claimedhis wife was the one that assaulted him:
Hill said his wife woke him up around 1 p.m. with a McChicken in hand. He admitted to police that he became upset and threw the sandwich at her, then picked up some of the bun, throwing it at her again.
The woman went to the bathroom to clean herself up but Hill followed her and began recording her using his cellphone, which he later shared with police. In the video, police saw the woman knock the phone out of his hands.
Police apparently found Hill’s wife with “mayonnaise on her shirt and face;” she told police her husband “forcefully smashed the bun into her face.” Police arrested Hill and confiscated his weapons license.
Hey, let’s real talk for a second. This sounds like a far fetched, silly story but it happened to me! I had a similar experience. I can’t decide if this is comforting or deeply disturbing.
The holidays are upon us! Anyone feeling the pressure? I think it’s time for some very funny lady tweets. I found what I think are some of the best tweets from female writers, comedians, actresses and the like, and put them together in this handy post, just for you! So go ahead and laugh the holiday stress away, with these Best Lady Tweets!
My taxi driver is adamant that the Victoria's Secret show was created and run by Victoria Beckham – he won't take no for an answer.
— Emma Gannon (@girllostincity) December 4, 2014
There’s always that moment when you’re first dating someone new where you have that feeling that indicates whether or not it’s actually gonna go somewhere. And it’s either a sinking feeling, or a sunny feeling. It’s a feeling of, “Oh crap, this isn’t gonna work” or “Oh my God, I think we may actually have something here.” Both moments are full of intense emotion, and both ultimately decide which path you’re going to embark on. But sometimes, you’re caught right in the middle, and you don’t know which way you’re leaning. That’s tricky.
So here’s a list of things to check off in your mind, to help ask yourself, does my partner have long term potential? Some of them are obvious, and others, maybe a little less so. How many can you think of?
Happy Thanksgiving from The Gaggle! Enjoy the holiday weekend with friends, family, and food!
You probably shouldn’t have an Instagram with your significant other. But if you do… Just don’t wind up like this couple.
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